I’m posting this to pick up on a few things that i got involved in over the last week…and also because I realised that the issues involved are still upsetting some people in the LGBT community. Natascha Kennedy, for one, who has just posted about this on facebook.
Anyway, it was also something i picked up on for my Guardian piece last week – and appears to represent a particular strand running through discourse in this area like bigotry through the centre of a seriously normal stick of rock.
(Hmmm. That metaphor doesn’t exactly work…but i hope you get my drift).
My own focus last week was on surgical attitudes. However, the origins of that story lie in Prof Alice Dreger’s exposé of how some physicians have been using “dex”.
I share general abhorrence at this. Nonetheless, it also highlights an issue that i feel the GLBT community have never fully addressed, because so much campaigning for “rights” has been based on a seriously heteronormative view of life. We deserve rights NOT because we do…but because a) we can’t help it (genetically) and b) because we are just as normal as the next fucked-up human being.
This has always struck me as a massive bear trap that the community has dug for itself. The counter-question is always “what if?”
What if it turns out to be lifestyle choice after all? Do we just unpick gay rights…or put them back on a par with all other sexual rights (which is, very unsteady).
What if a genuine “cure” for LGBT-ism can be found?
My own answer is clear: fuck off. In fact, fuck off with extreme prejudice. I am what i am. We are what we are. And if we are not harming others in the process: if we are doing what we do consensually, with adults; then it is no-one’s business but my own.
It is not for some over-stuffed, badly dressed psychiatrist, surgeon, physician or other busybody to tell me i or anyone else is abnormal. Or rather…they can say “abnormal” til the cows come home. But so fucking what!
(Can you tell that i am a bit cross about this?).
It doesn’t matter. I’m not normal. I’m not “normal, and i’m proud to be not normal. So there.
Much the same argument applies whenever anyone is judged on the basis of how they look…how they conform to some abstract standard of normalness.
Unfortunately, any and every time anyone from the LGBT world argues “we’re just as normal as the next guy” as basis for granting us rights…they implicitly, absolutely cut the ground out from our feet.
No (repetition here!). We don’t deserve rights because we are normal. We deserve rights because we are human. And any medical bod who attempts to impose their own view of normality on the rest of us…deserves to have their own normality re-arranged.